Maybe he’s a coworker, a neighbor, or a guy you ran into at a party. He’s on your mind constantly, and you can’t stop thinking about him sexually.
You may notice him teasing you or making flirtatious gestures. These are signs that he is interested in you sexually. Psychics believe that you can get psychic signs when someone is thinking about you sexually.
1. You’re in love
If you are in love with him, then he is going to pop up in your thoughts no matter what you do. It is a natural human instinct to fantasize about people that you have an emotional connection with, but this can become problematic if it’s someone you don’t intend on being involved with long-term. The best way to stop obsessing about him is to think about something else instead. For example, try taking up a new hobby that will occupy your mind and make you focus on a different task. This could also help you get over him by refocusing your emotions on something positive and putting the past behind you.
One of the biggest reasons why you keep thinking about him sexually is that he turns you on physically. Maybe he has a certain charm that catches your eye or he has a habit of doing things that just turn you on. This can be a big sign that you have chemistry with him and want more than just casual fun.
Another reason you might be thinking about him sexually is that he gives you the “feel-good hormones” like dopamine and oxytocin. These hormones can trigger memories of happy times and make you feel warm and fuzzy when you think about them. However, if you are on the rebound from a bad relationship, these hormones might be doing more harm than good.
2. You’re lonely
Whether you’re single or in a relationship, fantasizing about someone can be fun and romantic. But if it becomes too obsessive or distracting, then it can become annoying and frustrating. When you’re thinking about a guy sexually and it’s someone you can’t be with, it can turn into frustration and even resentment over time.
It’s important to remember that your thoughts are normal and everyone thinks about sex from time to time. But if the frequency of these thoughts is getting out of control, then you may need to seek a sex therapist or change your birth control (some hormonal forms increase libido).
Another reason why you might be thinking about him so much is that you’re lonely. Loneliness can cause you to fantasize about people – both friends and strangers. It could be the guy who works next door to you at work or a colleague, or it might be the old man who studies penguins in Antarctica with whom you work for a month. Loneliness is a real problem that many people struggle with. It can be helped by spending time with other people, pursuing hobbies and passions, and having a social life. It’s also important to realize that you don’t need a man to feel whole and happy. So if you can’t stop thinking about him sexually, focus on other things to feel happier.
3. You’re in a relationship
There was a time, not long ago, when partners went to work in the morning and did not see, speak, or chat with each other for the rest of the day. Then they came home at night and did the same thing. Now, with smartphones and 24-hour Internet access, it’s possible that you are talking to your partner every hour of the day. This could be one reason why you can’t stop thinking about him sexually.
It’s also possible that he is playing hard to get, and you are confused about his signals. You may know that you like him, but you are not sure if he feels the same way about you. You are second-guessing everything he does and analyzing it for clues about his true feelings.
Another possibility is that you hooked up with him once and it was so good that you want more. Ruth Jesse at Hack Spirit suggests that this is often the case, and it can be very hard to put an end to the affair.
Alternatively, he is a bad boy who pisses you off, but his “bad boy” attitude still turns you on. If this is the case, it might be more about your need to salve your emotional wounds from a previous relationship than any actual attraction. Regardless, it’s probably time to give him the boot.
4. You’re in a complicated situation
Fantasizing about someone is a normal part of life, but if it’s consuming your thoughts and emotions it may be time to find other ways to get that dopamine fix. Often, intrusive thoughts are a sign of a mental health challenge, like anxiety or depression.
If this guy is playing hard to get, it’s tempting to fantasize about him sexually to see if you can catch him at his game. However, this behavior is only going to hurt you in the long run. He isn’t going to give you the answers you want, and your frustration about this will only cut into and distract you from other areas of your life.
Another reason you might be thinking about him sexually is because his bad boy behavior turns you on. This could be anything from the way he dresses to his casual attitude towards you and other people. If this is the case, you should focus on finding another guy who doesn’t play games and will treat you well. This might mean you should consider switching your birth control, as some forms are more androgenic (they increase libido in both men and women). Lastly, if he’s your ex, it’s important to remember that this is a rebound relationship and not a real one. As a result, your feelings will likely fade.