Sex is supposed to leave us feeling happy, but what happens if it doesn’t? It’s not uncommon to feel empty after sex.
If you’re noticing this feeling frequently, and it’s impacting your relationship, consider reaching out to a therapist. You may benefit from a couples therapist who is trained in sex and intimacy work.
1. You’re Feeling Guilty
Sex is a very intimate experience, and it can be hard to feel like you’re alone after the sexual part is over. This can be caused by a number of things, including sex-related anxiety, or it could be related to an underlying issue in the relationship such as body image issues, financial stressors, or feelings of shame about sex.
It’s also possible that you are feeling guilty because of a past history of sexual trauma or abuse. Additionally, it’s common for people to feel sad after sex if they are unable to orgasm. This can be because of a number of things, including hormonal changes, or it may simply be because they are not in the mood for orgasm. In either case, it is important to address these feelings as soon as possible.
2. You’re Feeling Lonely
For many people, sex can be a very intimate experience. This is especially true if you have a partner. However, if you’re feeling lonely after sex it may be because you aren’t connecting with your partner in a deep and meaningful way.
This can be caused by a number of factors, including sex with someone who isn’t right for you. It can also be caused by underlying anxieties or concerns that are left unaddressed.
It’s important to work through these issues and communicate more effectively. If you’re struggling to do this on your own, it may be worth considering working with a therapist or counselor who specializes in sex and relationship therapy. They can help you learn to open up and connect with your partner.
3. You’re Feeling Unworthy
You may be feeling unworthy after sex for a variety of reasons. Maybe you are in a toxic relationship, harboring feelings of resentment or sexual guilt, or have an unconscious pattern of associating sex with shame. Alternatively, this feeling can also be caused by a religious or cultural background that has made you associate sexuality with shame.
It could also be that sex isn’t giving you what you need in your relationship, or that you are using sex to meet underlying needs. This can lead to feelings of depression after sex. Having a talk with your partner, and exploring what the underlying issues are can help you resolve these feelings. In the meantime, try taking a break from sex until you can make some changes in your relationship.
4. You’re Feeling Overwhelmed
Sex is supposed to uplift us, but sometimes it can leave you feeling a bit depressed. This can be a result of hormones, or it could be something else. If you find yourself consistently feeling down after sex, it’s important to talk about it with your partner. Trying to ignore how you feel will only hurt your relationship in the long run. Consider seeking help from a couples therapist or sex therapist.
It’s also possible that your feelings are being caused by PTSD or another mental health issue. If you’re unsure what’s causing your anxiety, talk to a therapist or psychiatrist. They’ll be able to unpack the issue with you and recommend treatment options. They can even recommend a medication that will ease your symptoms.
5. You’re Feeling Unsatisfied
If you’re feeling unsatisfied after sex, it may be time to make some changes. Usually sex is supposed to leave you feeling satisfied, especially when it’s consensual and good. But if you’re constantly fantasizing about other people or find yourself disappointed in your partner, that may be a sign that you’re not feeling fully satisfied.
Sexual frustration is the most common reason for feeling empty after sex. This happens when you have high expectations and aren’t able to meet them, leading you to feel dissatisfied with your sex life. This can lead to problems in your relationship, so it’s important to talk about it with a therapist. Trying to ignore the problem will only make things worse. Getting help for feelings of sexual frustration is the best way to resolve them.
6. You’re Feeling Distracted
Whether it’s the notification noises on your phone, the dog barking in the background, or thoughts about an argument you had with your partner, outside distractions can keep you from being fully engaged during sex.
Often this feeling of being distracted during sex is an indication that you need to practice mindfulness on a daily basis in order to learn how to focus in the moment and stop thinking about the outcomes. Eventually you will be able to achieve this in-the-moment state during sex.
However, sometimes a lack of orgasm can be a sign that you are experiencing sexual dysfunction. In this case, it’s important to speak with a therapist who can help you unpack these feelings. They may be a result of sexual trauma, an anxiety disorder or depression.
7. You’re Feeling Guilty
Sexual guilt can stem from many things, including a feeling of shame or embarrassment. It can also be caused by a lack of pleasure. It is common for people to feel guilty about sexual activity, especially if they are not satisfied with it.
Feelings of guilt can also come from a variety of sources, including religious beliefs and upbringing, sexual abuse or trauma history, and feelings of vulnerability. It can be hard to reconcile these negative emotions with the feelings of euphoria and pleasure that accompany sex.
Physiologically, the feeling of guilt could be related to a drop in hormones after orgasm. This may be a result of the sudden cessation of the release of oxytocin, which can cause a person to feel sad and depressed.