It’s normal to feel a bit of blood your first time anal playing, especially if you apply too much pressure or don’t use enough lube. However, it’s rare that anal sex actually causes an accident.
A lack of lubrication can increase friction-related tears in the anus and rectum, which exposes skin to bacteria. That’s why it’s important to switch condoms if you go from anal to vaginal sex.
Butt play
If your fella isn’t on board with butt play, it can be tricky to find a way to convince him. One of the biggest turn-offs is the assumption that butt stuff is dirty, but it’s not. As long as you’ve showered that day and aren’t, er, unwell, everything is clean as a whistle. Poop does reside in your anus, but it’s not a reason to steer clear of ass play.
The good news is that you can start anal play slowly and work your way up to penetration. The key to success is to communicate throughout the process. This will help you to figure out what works and what doesn’t, as well as what feels good and what doesn’t. Adding a bit of lubricant to your anus can help to reduce friction and discomfort.
Another thing to keep in mind is that anal play can cause a urinary tract infection (UTI). This can occur if the rectum is filled with stool or it contains germs. It’s also important to not overdo it. If you feel pain or pressure, take a break. Don’t push through it because this could lead to tearing, hemorrhoids, and infection. Also, don’t forget to use a condom.
Finger play
When it comes to constipation, finger play can be a great way to stimulate the anus and help it function better. The anus is a small, almond-shaped button that hides behind the base of your penis. Unlike most sexual organs, the anus is not made of muscle, so it can feel very different when it’s stimulated. In fact, many people find anal penetration pleasurable.
However, it’s important to be aware of the risks and complications that come with anal sex, particularly if you have a GI condition like IBS or constipation. If you have stool in your rectum, it can cause pain during sex and increase the risk of vaginal or urinary tract infections. Similarly, if you have diarrhea, it can spread bacteria to your partner. Therefore, it’s best to avoid anal sex if you have either of these conditions.
If you do decide to have anal sex, make sure you use plenty of lubricant and have access to clean, sanitary wipes. It’s also important to start slowly, especially if you have a sensitive anus. You should also consider using a non-numbing lube, as it can help reduce the discomfort of anal penetration. Lastly, remember that anal sex can be messy, so you should have a towel and post-play wipes handy to clean up any lube or shit from your anus.
Butt plugs
Whether you are new to anal play or an experienced anal enthusiast, butt plugs can provide intense pleasure. They are also a great way to stimulate multiple erogenous zones at once, resulting in intense blended orgasms. You can use them alone, with penetrative sex, or even while masturbating. There are tons of different sizes, shapes, and functions to choose from. And the best part is that they are totally discreet.
Just like with a penis or dildo, it is important to prepare your anus before using butt plugs. Start by using fingers and smaller butt plugs before moving on to larger ones, and always remember to use plenty of lube. Also, be patient; rushing can actually cause painful anal micro-abrasions.
If you are squeamish about poop or want to minimize your chances of seeing or touching it during anal play, try to avoid toys made from porous materials such as plastic or acrylic, which may leech harmful chemicals into your anus and can’t be fully sanitized. Instead, opt for plugs made from silicone, Pyrex glass, or stainless steel, which are all safe to touch.
Also, if you have an underlying medical condition that affects your gastrointestinal tract, it is probably best to avoid anal play until after you’ve passed a stool. Not passing a stool before sex can cause a bacteria transfer from your anus to the vagina, which can lead to a painful infection.
Sex toys
Whether you’re looking to explore anal stimulation or are interested in adding anal play to your sex life, there are plenty of toys available. A bouncy anal dildo, for instance, features weighted balls that roll around on each thrust and stimulate multiple nerves in the anal canal. It can be inserted anally or vaginally and is easy to use. Just make sure you apply plenty of water-based lubricant before inserting it.
Another option is anal plugs, which can be inserted either anally or vaginally and are designed to stimulate the nerves of the anus. These devices can be made from a variety of materials, including silicone. Some have handles or a flared base to prevent the toy from slipping out of your anus. If you’re a beginner, you can start with a simple anal bead, such as these ones from Blush B Yours, or move on to more advanced plugs, like the Prostate Massager from Lovehoney.
While anal sex can help with constipation, it’s important to take your time and be careful. For starters, always use a water-based lubricant and be sure to clean your anal and the toy after each use. You should also avoid spicy foods and ensure that you poop before engaging in anal sex. Also, it’s best to avoid numbing lubes, which can cause discomfort and pain.